While
some couples deliberate: When is the right time to shack up together? How long
must we be dating before making the big live-in commitment? Have we passed all
the appropriate tests? Are we at the right stage of life? Will I still be able
to secretly date other people if I live with her?
I
can easily advise on how to solve your dilemma. It’s like this: Find a roommate
of the opposite sex who you find dashingly desirable, interesting, fun,
trustworthy and practical. In other words, make sure the compatibility quotient
is high. Then, split the rent. Splitting rent establishes relationship
hierarchy of control, aka equality. Now, you have a built-in companion,
confidante, dinner and movie date, and friend. An optional couch cuddler. A
person to make sure you wake up alive every day.
Oh,
but what to do when you get sick of each other? Easy. Go into separate rooms.
Or somebody goes out for a while. Be sure to maintain other friendships. If
necessary, have a fight while safely nestled in each other’s arms.
Overall,
the roommate dating plan can cut through layers of relationship bullcrap with a
single swipe. You did it. You took the plunge and didn’t overanalyze.
Now,
just see if it all lives up to the living together thing.
PS
This also works well with same sex roommates too if you are looking to pursue a
sexual preference/gender conversion.
PPS
It works best if the roommate is loving and caring and nurturing and empathetic
and cute and smart and artistic and funny and kind and compassionate too. Avoid
narcissistic aholes whenever possible.
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