15 July 2014

I Love You If...Date


I was married to an “I love you IF…” person.

“Dating Suburban, I love you IF you are attractive, skinny, and fun. I love you if you let me watch TV whenever I want. I love you if you allow me to lie to you about money and my whereabouts. I love you if we spend all holidays with my side of the family. I love you if you entertain the children while I cook. I love you if we have friends over for a Superbowl party. I love you if you are not allergic to dogs and cats. I love you if you do exactly as I say.”

By a slim stroke of uck (you can add an “L” or an “F” to the front of that word – your choice) I escaped that noose. Now, I’m dating an “I love you BECAUSE…” person.

“I love you because you’re beautiful. I love you because you’re tired. I love you because you forgot to flush the toilet. I love you because you got fired from the job you hated anyway. I love you because you go to court to protect your kids from Crusty the Horr instead of going on a date with me, me and me. I love you because you read books. I love you because you can do things I cannot do, and I can learn from you. I love you because you talk to me. I love you because you care. I love you because you don’t.”

So when you’re out there dating, desperately searching online for the person who will love you if you are exactly what they ordered, give it up now. Stay home and sulk, or take a bath. There may be 1000 of those iffy daters, but it’s so much better to wait for the because dater. The person who appreciates you for exactly who YOU are, not exactly who they want you to morph into each day. 

BECAUSE IF you hold out, I promise you the rewards will fulfill the emptiest, darkest nights.

“Because, because, because, because, because – because of the wonderful things he does.” Or is.
~ Wizard of Oz